How Honest Are Parents?

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IMG_7449I wouldn’t call my twins ugly, but let’s just say, “I pray they have a great sense of humor.”

My family gets so frustrated when I say things like this, but in my heart-of-hearts my seven-week old twin boys are “interesting” looking. The Lion, the oldest by 60 seconds, is HUGE. He looks like a middle aged undisputed sumo wrestler who fell behind in his taxes. And, Lord don’t get me started on my Little Old Man. His face could really use a smile. He looks like that grumpy grandfather who lived on the corner and cursed the kids for walking on his grass.

I’m just being honest. As a matter of fact if more parents were honest about their children the world would be a better place. My husband is a school teacher, and every evening he comes home and tells me about the troubled children he teaches. Instead of the parents appreciating the fact that a teacher cares enough to correct their child, they actually come up to the school irate that someone would chastise their “precious angel”. Come on!!! You can’t tell me that these parents don’t know that their son or daughter is a full-blown jerk. And, they are well aware that the way their child acts at home is the way they act in the classroom, but instead of being honest and saying, “My child is an asshole.” they would rather be in denial.

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The Lion

 

I remember being in the 5th grade and I came home and told my mother that Antoine Thomas shouted that I was “two pieces of bread that wished I had some meat.” When I threatened to tell the teacher, he called me “Channel 11” because to him I was just two skinny legs. I was so embarrassed. I went to my mother for comfort and do you know what she did? She laughed. Do you know why she laughed? Because it was funny!

Of course after her laughter subsided she gave me a hug and told me that I was beautiful, but she also went on to explain to me that I was skinny and I would probably be that way for a long time, so the best thing for me to do is embrace it. My mother was honest, and her honesty helped me to build character. My mother also told me that Antoine probably liked me. Boys are such idiots!!!

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Little Old Man

As parents I know we love our children, but if your child has a big head, don’t act like it’s small. If your child bites through furniture at home don’t act surprised if the teacher calls and says your child was put out for biting a child. If your child is sensitive about being cross-eyed with buck teeth, address the obvious at home, and help them develop a stand-up routine quick! Bottom-line: Let’s be honest about our children.

I was reading a book by one of my favorite authors, Dan Brown, and the story’s main character said something that struck me, ” The human mind has a primitive ego defense mechanism that negates all realities that produce too much stress for the brain to handle. It’s called denial.”

My diary entry is this, “I would rather build on a foundation of strong character than on a weak lie.”

 

10 Comments

  1. LOL! We definetly need to be more honest with ourselves when it comes to our children. I just talked to a mom at my daughter’s preschool and she was so angry because the teacher said that her daughter was unable to dress herself and a few other things. She asked me how I felt about my daughter’s report and I told her that what she said about my daughter was no different from what I observe on a daily basis!!

    • That is so refreshing. You probably blew that teacher’s mind. Nowadays teachers have to prepare themselves for the backlash they receive from parents for simply telling truth.

  2. Congratulations on the new babies. I ran into Bond and he mentioned that you were heading back to work soon. All the best.

    • Thank you Arielle. “Returning to Work”– that is going to be another post 🙂

  3. I really enjoy reading your blogs. They are honest and they do add that sense of humor to alot of the situations that mothers go through and how we really feel about everday lifeas mothers. I remember being in class with you in elementary school and you were always a nice person. Awesome blog and much continued success.

    • Thank you soooo much Nakia. Please continue supporting. It was easy to be nice to a person like you…now I could name a few others I couldn’t stand 🙂

  4. i can relate my twins are now 2 and it really does become overwhelming at times. There are moments that make you smile then other times it makes you want to pull your hair out.They are identical and can confuse you at times. The twins aren’t the only ones that bother me it when people see you in stores and ask are they twins and ask you a million and one questions about what is it like with twins. Sorry for the rant I just can relate.

    • Preach Erica! I hate it when people come up to me and say, “Oh, you have twins. Why don’t they look alike?” I want to say, “Chick, I said I have twins not clones! Keep it moving.” Erica please keep supporting and sharing your comments, we need all the support we can get.

  5. You are a mess. BTW you know I love the name “The Lion”. Those babies are so cute. But I will admit it used (ok still does) to piss me off when people called my babies fat. Now I’m willing to admit they are/were fat. But that’s better than a skinny sickly little baby. And when people point out they have big foreheads I say it’s a sign of beauty in some cultures. But when people comment on their hair I get mad…they are black so fine straight hair might have lasted for a few weeks but again they are black.

    • Thanks MJ. I know what you mean, when it comes to ignorant comments, are children are off limits. Your family is beautiful. Thank you for continuing to support MOD.

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